A True Knight is Honorable – A true knight must accept responsibility for the one thing that is within his control, himself. A true knight must always keep their word, realizing that a person who’s word is as good as their bond is held in high esteem by all. A true knight must never speak harshly or critically of a Brother or Sister, unless it be in private and tempered with the love we have for each other. Always speaking to him or her for the purpose of aiding him to be a better knight. A true knight must always rely on his or her instincts and those lessons taught to him throughout the course of his knightly career when deciding right from wrong.
> How often do we hear about someone making excuses so as to not take the blame for something? Or saying they’ll do or be one thing, only to turn around and not keep their word? (I hear about this one more frequently.) I’m normally a quiet person, but I have (unfortunately) spoken ill of someone when they weren’t around. I’m not proud of it and if I could make things up with those people, I would. Or at least, part ways on amicable terms. I can – and plan to – do better as I move forward.
A True Knight Shows Excellence – A true knight must commit to excellence, and seek the highest level of excellence in all aspects of his or her life. A true knight must always excel in his education, putting forth his best effort in all his school works. A true knight must always excel in bearing, keeping his or her attitude and conduct above reproach. He or she should always be aware that it is through their bearing that our division be judged by.
> ALL aspects of his or her life. My bearing – how I behave and conduct myself – is a constant work in progress. I realize that by choosing to strive towards being a gentleman, being chivalrous and exemplifying the traits of both, that I am setting for myself standards that others will judge me by. I’m essentially putting myself on a pedestal in order to be viewed, tried and tested.
A True Knight has Courage – A true knight must have the courage to stand up for those principles which he or she believes are right, especially in the presence of those who oppose the cardinal virtues of the Knighthood. A true knight is never afraid to defend their own rights and those of others. A true knight shall always stand to defend the rights of the weak, the oppressed, and the downtrodden.
> That first line really stands out to me. As I’ve said before, I believe in being chivalrous and I believe in being a gentleman. It’s something I feel has largely been forgotten in today’s society. People don’t seem to believe in them as much, or esteem them, anymore. Some of those people may even oppose those of us who stand up for these principles. That’s when we need to have courage to keep standing, no matter what gets thrown our way.
A True Knight is Loyal – A true knight shall always remain loyal to the Order of Knighthood. A true knight shall, at all times, remain loyal to his brothers.
> There is so much more to this one than just those two lines. Where should I begin? I could probably do an entire post solely on loyalty…you know what? I think I will. Not yet, though. There is still a lot of information I want to share with you all. For now, I’ll just give a brief rundown on what and who we need to be – or should – be loyal to. God, first and foremost. Country, although I can think of some (extreme) circumstances where this may not apply. Family – again, there could be some extreme circumstances that cause someone to have no loyalty to their family at all. Friends – I’m going to have at least one post solely on this subject, maybe more. It would also work as a small series of posts, perhaps. Boyfriend/girlfriend; Fiance; Spouse – if you are not loyal to them at least, then chances are you won’t be together for much longer. Yourself – yes, it’s possible to say you believe in one thing and do another. Then again, if you say that you believe in one thing but don’t conduct yourself in a like manner, then did you ever really believe it in the first place?
A True Knight is Generous – A true knight shall be generous with his time, always endeavoring to share his knowledge and experience with the younger knight. A true knight shall always offer to help and assist whenever the need should require it. A true knight shall demonstrate his generosity anonymously and by example, placing
the needs of others above his own.
> Generous with his time. I read that and think about the two Sundays a month that I volunteer in the preschool wing at church. There have been times when I didn’t feel like going in that morning, because I felt really tired or didn’t want to do anything because of how the previous day had gone for me. Each time, I’ve managed to talk myself into going and each time I went in (on a day like that), something happened – no matter how small or trivial it may seem – that made it worth it; made me think “THIS…THIS is why I do this.” That also ties in with offering to help and assist when need requires it. I don’t have much experience yet with being anonymously generous, but I’m sure some situation will present itself in due course. By example – volunteering in the preschool wing at church or anywhere else, such as an animal shelter, can be a way to be generous by example. You can also be generous with money, belongings, food – whatever you feel led to share.
A True Knight is Well-Spoken – A true knight shall not engage in vulgarity. A true knight shall always be heard speaking favorably about the Order of Knighthood and his kingdom in general.
> I think this one speaks for itself. No matter who you are, you shouldn’t engage in vulgarity. It doesn’t add anything to a conversation (except word count). It doesn’t make you sounder any cooler or smarter or anything. Speaking favorably, on the other hand, should be heard more often. I don’t mean sucking up to someone in hopes that you will get something from them. No, I’m talking about praising a host’s or hostess’s dinner, home or garden. Someone’s behavior, how well a game was played – whatever the situation or circumstance, speak favorably and people will probably thank you for it.
A True Knight is Discreet – A true knight shall maintain all confidences reposed in him. A true knight shall not engage in any conversation that demeans any woman in
particular, or women in general. A true knight shall not engage in slander, realizing that that which is unseen is unknown. A true knight shall keep to himself those things which are seen, but may cause physical or emotional damage to another. A true knight shall keep his relationship with his lady private, and not hold their relationship up to public scrutiny.
> Keep the secrets that someone trusts you with. Don’t talk about a woman, whether a specific one or women in general, in a demeaning, shameful or mortifying way. Don’t gossip or talk bad about someone, whether that person is present or not. You may choose to withhold the truth, or parts of the truth, if it may cause harm to someone you care about, but I recommend caution when using this. It is possible that it could harm the other person anyway, regardless of what your intentions were. As for a knight keeping his relationship with his lady private, and not hold their relationship up to public scrutiny – are you familiar with the phrase “A gentleman does not kiss and tell”? There you go. Talking about something that is supposed to be kept between the two of you is disrespectful to the other person. It damages, if not destroys, whatever trust the other person had in you.
A True Knight is Pure – A true knight shall not, in any manner, bring shame upon himself or Knighthood. A true knight shall not consume anything that hinders their fighting ability or thinking ability to the point of being useless to the land in which they serve.
> Don’t do or say anything that is shameful, either to yourself or to what you stand for. Those who look up to you will think it is okay to act in that manner, and those who keep a watchful eye on you (like a parent to a child) will be disappointed in you. I agree that one should not consume something that hinders their fighting or thinking ability to the point of being useless. I would like to make my point clear: do it in moderation, whether it’s beer, wine, food, water, cigars, cigarettes or anything else you like to indulge in. If you consume anything to the point where you are unable to perform the most basic tasks, such as standing up or walking straight, then you’ve gone too far. King Arthur’s knights were known to drink, but not to the point of becoming unruly or belligerent. It’s possible to eat so much food that all you are able to do is lay on the couch or floor. Same goes for water. Anything can become harmful to you if you consume enough of it.
A True Knight is Wise – A true knight shall endeavor to use the tenets of the Knighthood and the lessons of life to prevent foolish actions. A true knight shall always hold the tenet “Think twice before speaking once” as the basis for all his or her dealings with others. A true knight shall always attempt to apply practical knowledge to all of the situations he or she faces.
> Be slow to speak and quick to listen. It’s better to keep your mouth closed and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. Proverbs 29:20 – “Do you see someone who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for them.” (NIV) You can find a lot of quotes on thinking before you speak, or act. Always try to be and do the best you can in whatever situation you face. Even if you think no one is watching.
A True Knight is Courteous – A true knight shall always take the time to display those courtesies which we all are entitled to, remembering that familiarity does not serve as an exception. A true knight shall always attempt to make others feel welcome and appreciated when visiting the knight’s lodge. A true knight shall be patient and understanding when working with a younger knight or squire. A true knight shall respect the fact that others have their own opinions, and not require them to adopt his own.
> “…those courtesies which we all are entitled to…” On a whim, I googled common courtesy and quickly realized that I should devote an entire post/entry to common courtesy in various locations and/or situations. For that matter, I should devote whole entries to each of the various qualities and virtues I’ve talked about so far. In regards to whether or not we are actually entitled to certain courtesies, we probably aren’t. But then there is the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Common courtesy, good manners – it comes down to the same thing.
Matthew 7:12 – “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” (NIV)
Luke 6:31 – “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” (NIV)
If someone is visiting your home, you should make them feel welcome and appreciated. You want them to come back, don’t you? 🙂 If they offer to help with dinner, set the table, or something like that, you don’t have to say yes. You don’t have to say no, either. Chances are that if they offered, it’s because they want to help so that you don’t have to do all the work. Alternatively, there may be nothing for them to help with. It comes back to common courtesy.
Being patient and understanding with those who are younger – I don’t think the age difference matters at all. The patience and understanding should go both ways. Whether you are volunteering with young children (for me, I’ve got 4 year olds every other Sunday at church), or listening to someone give you advice – whatever the situation, be patient and understanding to the other person. Let them have their say. Finally, know that every person has their own opinions and beliefs. Do not require or force someone to adopt your beliefs and opinions as their own.
A True Knight is Just – A true knight shall not value himself above others or feel that he should be singled out for special treatment. A true knight shall refrain from judging others based on outward appearances or characteristics. A true knight shall treat all people with fairness and honesty, regardless of their station in life. A true knight shall, when asked to, mediate a dispute between two knights, judge fairly, honestly and without malice, taking into consideration the effects of his decision on his fellow knights and the knighthood.
> All men are created equal. You are not entitled to any special treatment just because you drive a fancy car and the other person does not. Each person on this earth was made in God’s image and he loves each one equally. Do not judge someone because they are different from you. Maybe their clothes are frequently dirty – what if gardening is their favorite thing to do in the world? Will you judge them for doing something they love? Treat everyone equally, whether or not their gender, skin, age, characteristics, habits or hobbies are different from your own. Should you be asked to mediate an argument or dispute, do so fairly and honestly, taking into consideration the effects your decision will have on those involved and possibly your relationship with either party.